PERSONAL TRANSFORMATION WITH NKECHI

 Love is one of the most popular theme in music and movies, everyone love love but do you really understand the concept of love. As a child I grew up thinking "love " was what you give to others, a kinda sacrifice you offer to others ,denying yourself of it to meet the needs of others. I felt the greatest love was loving others above myself, meeting the needs of others above me, caring for others and neglecting me, pouring into others and feeling dried up but still keep pouring because that's what love is. That was my concept of love. I hit rock bottom when I never got back what I thought was love from those I gave it to and trust me, it really hurt. Let's look out some limiting beliefs about love: 1-Love is about giving out and not receiving. 2-You have to deplete for others to increase. 3-Love means giving from a place of scarcity and pain. 4-Love is control and ownership. 5-Love can turn to hate. 6- Love is silence in the face of abuse. 7-Love

 Gloria was raised by a parent who constantly taunted her she was fat and unattractive as far back as she could remember when she was 5 years old. She was constantly called names, it was worst at school as kids bullied her daily, she began loathing herself for been fat and ugly. Some of can relate to this kinds of childhood memories. Gloria grew up feeling she was ugly, not enough, ashamed of her body, constantly ate for comfort, kept to herself always, became suicidal, cut herself most times, felt something was wrong with her, saw herself as a mistake. Gloria is classical example of a young lady with Self-Esteem issue. More often than not self esteem issue can always be traced to our childhood upbringing. WHAT IS SELF-ESTEEM - Is basically how we perceive and value ourselves. Typically based on our opinion, beliefs and exposure. Self -Esteem issues is always tied to : How you  see yourself and what you say to yourself, these two go hand in hand. There re three types of Self-Esteem: 1-

Today is women 's day worldwide, a day set aside to recognize and celebrate all women.  More often than not, women don't give themselves credit personally for their struggles and achievement. We sometimes wait for outward validation to feel good which is not really a bad idea but that would mean having to wait endlessly for others validation as suppose finding inner validation from within. A dear friend of mine with a special needs child battling cerebral palsy shared how she constantly lost herself carrying for her special needs daughter. Caring for her was taking a toll on her mental and physical health and in raising her other kids. She stumbled on the subject of affirmation and she began to soak herself in it on a daily basis to renew her strength, vitality and joy.  She chose to daily appreciate herself in front of the mirror, reminding herself ,she is an amazing mom, an amazing wife and an amazing woman. Affirmations helped her daily to love herself, create time to rest a