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HOW TO HANDLE WHEN YOU HAVE BEEN GHOSTED IN A RELATIONSHIP

 Ghosting in a relationship is when one person abruptly ends all communication with their partner without explanation. It leaves the other person feeling confused, hurt, and with unanswered questions. Ghosting lacks closure, making it a challenging and emotionally distressing experience for those left in the dark. People may ghost for various reasons. Fear of confrontation, avoidance of uncomfortable conversations, or a desire to end a relationship without explaining can drive ghosting. It may also stem from uncertainty about one's own feelings or an attempt to avoid hurting the other person. Ultimately, ghosting reflects a lack of communication skills or emotional readiness to handle relationship challenges. Ghosting can be tough, but here are some simple ways to handle it: Stay Calm: When you realize you're being ghosted, take a deep breath. It's okay to feel hurt or confused, but try not to let your emotions take over. Give Some Space: If someone is ghosting you, pushing

ASSUMPTION KILLED THE MAN I CARED ABOUT.

 A lady shared how  assumption ruined a new relationship she just started. After their first date , the guy never reached out to her and she assumed he wasn't interested , unknown to her the guy was critically ill for days and was unable to access help and died in his apartment. She found out a week later when she decided to check up on him that he has passed on. She was devastated and wished she didn't assumed he didn't care about her but fell critically ill. She blamed herself for not reaching you. Assumptions are like shortcuts for our brains. They're the quick jumps our minds make without taking the long route of gathering all the facts. Imagine you're walking into a room, and you assume the light switch is where it was yesterday. Your brain skips the process of double-checking, assuming things haven't changed. In everyday life, assumptions happen all the time. When you see dark clouds, you might assume it's going to rain. It's a mental prediction ba

LOVE WITH NO ATTACHMENT

Can you really love without attachment? Loving without attachment is a concept that raises questions about the nature of relationships. It means caring for someone without relying on them for personal happiness.  In a relationship without attachment, individuals appreciate each other without being dependent on the other for fulfillment. Distinguishing between love and attachment is crucial. Love involves considering the other person's needs and supporting their aspirations.  It's a selfless, passionate, and liberating experience that fosters personal growth.  On the contrary, attachment is characterized by selfishness, lack of passion, and a temporary nature that may lead to feelings of being controlled. An illustrative story highlights the impact of attachment in a tragic situation. A friend's fiance called off their wedding after she became paralyzed in a car accident, revealing the depth of his attachment as he couldn't accept the changed circumstances. The Buddhist