PERSONAL TRANSFORMATION WITH NKECHI

As the year winds down and there are just two days left, I naturally slow myself down. I always do. This period has become sacred to me. I pause. I breathe. I reflect. I take stock. This morning, I sat quietly in my office.  No rush. No agenda.  Just me and my thoughts. I looked back at 2025 with honesty and kindness. I looked at the highs that stretched my joy. I looked at the lows that tested my strength. I looked at the woman I have become, month after month, decision after decision. I thought about my health, my family, my work. I thought about stepping into new responsibilities on a fresh professional front. That mix of pressure and privilege that comes with growth. I thought about building my personal business, sometimes with excitement, sometimes with fatigue, but always with intention.  I thought about the inner work. The discipline. The days when I showed up even when it was uncomfortable. The days when growth required me to unlearn, not just learn. W...

  As the year comes to a close, many of us naturally drift into introspection. We pause, we look back, and we ask ourselves difficult but necessary questions.  This process of year-end reflection is not sentimental indulgence. It is strategic self-leadership. Retrospection allows us to extract meaning from experience, while introspection helps us realign with purpose. As this year winds down, I find myself reflecting deeply on a journey that began in uncertainty and unfolded into growth, leadership, and profound gratitude. Questions That Frame Year-End Reflection Before any honest introspection, questions must lead the way. 1-Where did I begin this year emotionally, mentally, and spiritually? 2-What internal shifts mattered more than visible achievements? 3-Which moments tested my values, and how did I respond? 4+What lessons will I carry forward into the new year? 5+Who have I become as a result of this year’s challenges? These questions shape meaningful self-refl...

A Deep Dive Into Identity When was the last time you stopped to ask yourself who you are beyond the roles you play? Not “Who am I as a mother?” Not “Who am I as a partner?” Not “Who am I in my job?” I mean the real question. Who are you when no one is watching, needing, or expecting anything from you? This morning, I sat with myself and took a long look at the different expressions of my life. The mother. The friend. The media trainer. The journalist. The lover. The wife. The sister. The professional. The helper. The guide. Every version of me holds meaning, but none of them alone define my identity. Once I stripped those roles away, I asked myself: Who am I standing alone? What surfaced was simple and true. I am a woman committed to living a better life, growing through every season, evolving with intention, and bringing light to others. But most importantly, I am learning to be happy with myself—at every stage, in every version. Identity starts with that kind of honest se...

My life. Three years ago, my life looked fine on the surface. I was functioning, working, showing up, meeting expectations. Yet inside, I felt restless. There was a quiet heaviness I could not ignore, a sense that I was living from effort instead of ease. I carried old emotions I had normalised for years. I did not call it trauma then. I only knew something within me needed attention. That was when I stumbled on Marisa Peer, a foremost and globally renowned hypnotherapist. It was not during a crisis. It was one of those moments when curiosity opens a door and life changes direction. I encountered her work online, pressed play on one video, and something clicked. Her language around the mind, childhood conditioning, and gratitude felt grounded, intelligent, and practical. No theatrics. Just truth delivered with calm authority. I stayed. What followed was a deep immersion. I gorged on podcasts and videos. I listened repeatedly, sometimes to the same message until it sank bene...

How We Fade, How We Break, and How We Find Our Way Back Have you ever looked at yourself in the mirror and realized you don’t recognize who you’ve become? Have you ever wondered when you stopped being you? Have you felt burned out, overstretched, unseen, and disconnected from your own soul? I’ve been there. And I’m going to speak from lived experience, not theory. The Quiet Question Nobody Asks Before I dive in, let me start with some real questions we rarely confront: When last did you pause and check in with yourself? When did you last ask, “How am I really doing?” Are you living, or are you performing? Are you carrying your life, or is life carrying you? Are you being true to yourself, or are you slowly disappearing? These questions matter. Because losing yourself is not sudden. It’s a slow fading. What is Losing Yourself Syndrome? Losing yourself syndrome happens when you abandon your identity, your needs, and your wellbeing in service to roles, responsibilities, expect...

This morning, while reflecting on International Men’s Day, my mind drifted to a period on Facebook that felt like a long emotional storm. A few years ago, I observed a group of women who had unknowingly slipped into misandry. They posted daily about men. The tone was sharp. The bitterness was visible. You could sense the unresolved father wounds, the relationship wounds, and the pain that had settled into their identities. Their pages became gathering points for other wounded women. They shared horrifying stories about fathers who disappointed them, husbands who betrayed them, and partners who hurt them. The comment sections were filled with grief, rage, and trauma. The sad part was simple. Most of them were not ready for therapy. They were not ready for emotional healing. They preferred to bleed publicly. Misandry does not always look like hatred. Sometimes it looks like a woman who has been wounded for too long. Before we go deeper, it helps to ask yourself a few groundin...