Saying Yes to You: The Sacred Power of Choosing Yourself

Have you ever found yourself standing at the edge of change, staring into the possibility of a new life, yet too afraid to step forward?

Have you ever wondered what might happen if you stopped saying “yes” to everyone else and finally whispered a sacred “yes” to yourself?

What if the next chapter of your life depended on one simple choice—to say yes to your own becoming?

A few years ago, I stood at this exact crossroad. My life looked full on the outside—campaigns, conferences, radio programs, school tours, and advocacy for boys’ rights. Yet inside, something was missing. I felt like I was moving, but not living. I was pouring out of a cup that had long run dry. The idea of saying “yes” to something new—a new look, a new vision, a new song, even a new voice—terrified me.

But the deeper truth was that I wasn’t just afraid of change. I was afraid of myself. Afraid of what would happen if I honored the quiet voice within that had been calling me higher.

What changed everything was the choice to tune inward. Through meditation, worship, and prayer, I opened myself to divine guidance. And in that sacred space, I gained clarity. What I found was not just a next step, but a whole new circle of my life waiting for me.

This is the story of how I moved from being a gender advocacy campaigner to a transformation coach, and how learning to say “yes” to myself became the most sacred decision of my life.

The Struggle Within: When Saying No to You Becomes a Habit

For years, I was deeply committed to advocacy. My voice was loud on radio, my energy was poured into campaigns, and my heart burned for justice. I fought to give boys a voice in a world that often silenced them. But somewhere along the way, my personal voice grew faint.

I didn’t realize how much I was saying “no” to myself. No to rest. No to new expressions of my gifts. No to embracing beauty and softness in my feminine self. No to inner healing.

It is easier to fight for others than to face the battlefield within. And my internal war was fierce.

Transitioning from advocacy to coaching was not just a professional shift. It was a soul shift. I wrestled with guilt. Who was I to stop fighting for boys when the work wasn’t finished? Who was I to choose softness when the world demanded toughness? Who was I to dream a new dream when the old one still had life?

The truth was simple but painful: I had outgrown an old version of myself, but I was afraid to release her.

The Pains of Unlearning and Relearning

Saying yes to you always comes with a price.

The first cost is letting go. Letting go of identities that once defined you. Letting go of the applause that came with being “needed.” Letting go of the safety of familiarity.

I had to unlearn the belief that my worth was tied to what I did for others. I had to relearn how to simply be—how to honor my own needs without guilt, how to embrace joy without apology, how to allow healing without resistance.

Healing my inner trauma was perhaps the hardest part. For years, I had buried wounds under work, using purpose as a shield. But purpose cannot permanently cover pain. Pain always finds a crack.

In this season of unlearning, I began seeking. I asked God for guidance, and the answers came in unexpected ways—through encounters with teachers and tools that shifted the trajectory of my life.

Divine Encounters: The Teachers Who Helped Me Say Yes

One of the first voices that broke through my fear was Marisa Peer, through Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT). Her work showed me that the beliefs I carried about unworthiness and limitation were simply stories—and that stories could be rewritten. RTT helped me find the roots of my fears and replace them with truth.

Then came Mindvalley, an ecosystem of spiritual and personal growth tools that expanded my vision. It introduced me to practices that taught me how to step boldly into my higher self and embrace a life of abundance.

Lisa Nichols entered my life with her fierce authenticity. She reminded me that my story mattered, not just in advocacy, but in transformation. She modeled what it meant to live fully in your power and gave me permission to rise.

Through these encounters, I realized I had always been waiting for someone to tell me it was safe to say yes to myself. But the truth is, no one else can give you that permission. You must give it to yourself.

The Sacred Yes: Voices That Guide Us

Many spiritual authors and teachers speak about the power of saying “yes” to life, to yourself, and to God’s call within you. Their wisdom reinforced my journey:

1. Shonda Rhimes – The Year of Yes taught me that joy, adventure, and transformation begin with one bold decision to say yes.

2. Oprah Winfrey – In The Path Made Clear, she reminds us that clarity comes when you align with your soul’s deepest calling.

3. Marianne Williamson – Through A Return to Love, she insists that choosing love over fear is the most sacred yes we can give ourselves.

4. Elizabeth Gilbert – Big Magic shows that creativity requires us to say yes to inspiration, even when fear is screaming no.

5. Tosha Silver – Outrageous Openness encourages surrender to the divine flow, a practice of saying yes to God’s unfolding plan.

These voices formed a choir around me, harmonizing with my own soul’s whisper: “Say yes, daughter. Say yes.”

How to Say Yes to You

Saying yes doesn’t always look like fireworks or grand gestures. Often, it begins quietly, with small but intentional steps.

1. Get Still. Through meditation, prayer, and worship, tune in to the voice within. Stillness reveals what busyness hides.

2. Release Guilt. Understand that saying yes to you is not selfish. It is stewardship of your soul.

3. Take One Brave Step. Don’t wait for perfect clarity. Start with what you know and trust the path will unfold.

4. Surround Yourself with Support. Seek mentors, books, and communities that encourage your growth.

5. Practice Daily Affirmations. Speak life over yourself. Words are seeds; let them plant a harvest of courage.

The Cost of Saying Yes

Every yes comes with a no.

When I said yes to becoming a transformation coach, I had to say no to staying in a role that no longer aligned with me. I had to say no to pleasing everyone. I had to say no to the comfort of old rhythms.

The cost of saying yes is often discomfort. You will lose people who only loved the old version of you. You will grieve identities you once carried proudly. You will step into unknown territory where the ground feels shaky.

But the cost of not saying yes is far greater. To live in no is to live half-alive, to betray your own soul.

Why You Should Say Yes

Because your soul is waiting.

Because the world is waiting.

Because there are songs only you can sing, visions only you can carry, and healing only you can birth.

Saying yes is not just about you. It is about the ripple effect. When you choose yourself, you light a torch for others to do the same.

The Benefits of Saying Yes

Clarity. Life becomes less about confusion and more about alignment.

Freedom. You stop living under the weight of expectations and begin living authentically.

Joy. Saying yes to you brings a peace and happiness no external achievement can match.

Impact. Your work becomes more powerful because it flows from authenticity, not exhaustion.

Healing. You create space to nurture your soul and break cycles of pain.

A Story Rewritten

Looking back, I realize that my advocacy years were not wasted. They were a foundation. They taught me courage, resilience, and the power of voice. But they were also preparation. Preparation for the greater calling of transformation coaching, where my voice could not just fight for others, but guide souls to heal, to bloom, and to say yes to themselves.

The woman I am today is softer, freer, and more radiant. Not because life became easier, but because I finally stopped resisting the truth within me. I said yes. And that yes has made all the difference.

Your Turn: Will You Say Yes?

So I ask you, right now:

What dream have you silenced because of fear?

What new look, new voice, or new vision have you delayed because of doubt?

What would happen if you stopped running from yourself and finally said yes?

The sacred yes is not a one-time decision. It is a daily practice. A daily surrender. A daily choosing of life, wholeness, and love.

My challenge to you is simple: This week, say yes to one thing your soul has been whispering. Maybe it is rest. Maybe it is creativity. Maybe it is healing. Maybe it is courage.

Whatever it is, honor it. For when you say yes to you, you are saying yes to God’s masterpiece.

Start today. Write down one area of your life where you’ve been afraid to say yes. Then commit to a single small step forward. Share it with a trusted friend or mentor. And if your heart is ready for deeper transformation, connect with me—I’ll walk with you. Together, we will create a life where your yes becomes your power, your freedom, and your legacy.