Granting Yourself Permission to Be You

 

Dear Beautiful Soul,

Have you ever paused to ask yourself: Am I truly living as me, or as who I think I’m supposed to be?

Have you ever felt the weight of expectations—family, society, culture—pulling you away from your true essence?

This moment, right now, is your invitation to release the roles, masks, and shoulds, and come home to yourself. The real you. The messy, magical, powerful, emotional, creative, imperfect, divine you. You don't need anyone's approval to live as you were born to be.

A Poem for the Journey

I peeled the layers others wrapped me in,

Until I stood bare in my skin.

Not perfect. Not fixed. Just free.

And that was enough for me.

What It Means to Validate Yourself

Self-validation is the act of acknowledging and honoring your own thoughts, feelings, desires, and boundaries—even when others don’t understand them. It’s refusing to silence your truth to maintain peace or people-please.

When you validate yourself, you begin to feel grounded, calm, and clear. You stop outsourcing your self-worth. You say: I see me. I hear me. I trust me.

Start small:

Write what you feel without judgment.

Give yourself credit for trying, even when the outcome isn’t perfect.

Learn to sit with discomfort instead of numbing or avoiding it.

Talk to yourself like you would talk to a dear friend—gently, lovingly, honestly.

What the Greats Say

Brené Brown reminds us:

“Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.”

This means we must choose ourselves every day, especially in a world that rewards fitting in.

Bell hooks teaches:

“To be loving we willingly hear each other’s truth, and most importantly, we affirm the value of being ourselves.”

That begins with affirming your own truth, and loving the parts of yourself that once felt unlovable.

Glennon Doyle writes:

“Every time you're given a choice between disappointing someone else and disappointing yourself, your duty is to disappoint that someone else.”

Because betraying yourself to be liked is the deepest wound of all.

Embodying You

To embody your authentic self is to unapologetically live in your truth—not just in theory, but in action. It means saying yes when something excites you and no when it drains you. It means trusting your gut, expressing your feelings, and reclaiming the wisdom of your body.

Try this:

Move intuitively—dance, stretch, walk in nature.

Speak your feelings out loud, even if it feels awkward.

Wear clothes that make you feel powerful, not just acceptable.

Create space for what feels nourishing and aligned.

The Gifts of Being Authentically You

When you are fully yourself, you radiate peace. You become magnetic—not because you're trying, but because authenticity is rare and beautiful.

Living authentically brings:

Deeper relationships rooted in truth, not performance.

Freedom from comparison and constant approval-seeking.

Clarity about your purpose, desires, and boundaries.

Healing, as you no longer suppress your pain to seem strong.

Permission to Be Weak, Fail, Thrive, Learn

You are not meant to be flawless—you are meant to be whole.

Give yourself permission to:

Cry, grieve, rage, feel.

Make mistakes without shame.

Start over as many times as needed.

Celebrate your wins—even the quiet ones.

Being human means falling and rising, breaking and becoming. It’s not a failure to need rest, to change your mind, or to not have it all figured out. That’s growth. That’s courage.

5 Soul-Soothing Affirmations

1. I give myself permission to be fully me.

2. I am worthy of love, just as I am.

3. I choose authenticity over approval.

4. My voice, desires, and dreams matter.

5. I honor my light, my shadow, and my journey.

Conclusion: Your Sacred Permission Slip

You are not too much. You are not too sensitive. You are not behind. You are not broken.

You are becoming. You are blossoming. You are worthy of space, softness, and self-celebration.

Stop waiting for someone to tell you it’s okay to be you. Write your own permission slip. Sign it with love. Live it with courage.

Call to Action:

Right now, take a piece of paper or open your journal and write:

“I give myself permission to…”

Complete that sentence as honestly as you can. Read it aloud. Post it somewhere visible. Let it guide your day.

And if you’re ready to live your truth more boldly, share your permission slip with someone you trust—or post it on social media with the hashtag #PermissionToBeMe.

Because the world doesn’t need another copy. It needs the original version of you.

Looking forward to comment, drop your thoughts or questions in the comment section.