HOW TO FALL IN LOVE WITH MYSELF

As I turn 50, I am reflecting on times in my 30s and 20s I wasn't loving me . I didn't think I matter in the scheme of things. I had constantly put myself last on the list of care, untill I completely lost myself. By 48 I stumbled on Merissa Peers who should me the powerful mind shift on self-love; it was a game changer as I began to put myself first , this is why I embarked on preaching the gospel of self- love.

Falling in love with yourself is a gradual and intentional process that involves self-awareness, self-acceptance, and self-compassion. Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you embark on this journey:

1. Self-Reflection

  • Spend time alone to understand your thoughts, feelings, and desires.
  • Keep a journal to track your emotions and experiences, which can help you identify patterns and triggers.

2. Identify Strengths and Weaknesses

  • List your strengths and acknowledge your achievements, no matter how small.
  • Accept your weaknesses without judgment and view them as areas for growth.

3. Practice Self-Compassion

  • Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer a friend.
  • Forgive yourself for past mistakes and recognize that everyone has flaws.

4. Set Boundaries

  • Learn to say no to things that drain your energy or compromise your values.
  • Surround yourself with positive influences and people who uplift you.

5. Develop Healthy Habits

  • Engage in regular physical activity, eat nourishing foods, and get adequate sleep.
  • Practice mindfulness or meditation to stay present and reduce stress.

6. Pursue Passions and Hobbies

  • Engage in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment.
  • Dedicate time to hobbies or new interests to cultivate a sense of purpose and accomplishment.

7. Affirmations and Positive Self-Talk

  • Replace negative self-talk with positive affirmations.
  • Remind yourself daily of your worth and capabilities.

8. Seek Support When Needed

  • Don’t hesitate to seek help from a therapist or counselor if you struggle with self-love.
  • Join support groups or communities that promote self-growth and positivity.

9. Celebrate Small Wins

  • Acknowledge and celebrate your progress, no matter how minor it seems.
  • Reward yourself for your efforts and milestones along the way.

10. Practice Patience

  • Understand that self-love is a continuous journey that requires time and effort.
  • Be patient with yourself and recognize that growth is a gradual process.

By incorporating these steps into your daily life, you can build a strong foundation of self-love and acceptance, leading to a healthier, more fulfilling relationship with yourself. 

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